Remember, life is your movie and you are the director of the movie. Your thoughts, perceptions, and actions are the script. Change these, and your movie changes.
Blaming your partner for your unhappiness and other problems is futile. It is difficult to see our own shortcomings, yet quite easy to see someone else’s. What we do not realize is that what we do not like about the people closest to us, really is what we do not like or accept about ourselves. If we do not currently have a partner, then mirroring occurs with other players in our lives. It could be with our children, roommates, or co-workers. The more intimate the relationship, the more powerful the mirroring.
God chooses my destiny and my paths of learning; my parents, my family,
my roles as different characters, my life’s each and every occasion.
Each and every moment is designed by dear lord and I flow with his will.
We share the most deep rooted bond among all other relationships of this world. I am not only part of her body from now, but also a part of her soul and she's my first soul mate whom I can always rely upon. God told me that he resides in all of us and everything that he has created and he has left this to us to find him in our heart & soul. I found my God in my mother. To whom this soul will always be thankful for nurturing me and giving me the opportunity to step into this world. It is the most beautiful & wonderful of communions among all other relationships in this universe. I, The Soul Feel Thankful To Thee (Lord) For Blessing Me With Wonderful, Loving And Caring Mother, To Whom My Soul Will Always Be A Slave. Because I Can Never Repay For What My Loving Mother Does For Me....Love You Lord...Love You Mother.
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"Your Child is a Winner, as long as he learns and celebrates his failures. " Success is not about winning, it is all about enjoying and growing with each experience.
It is the parents who define the word ’success’ to their child, through their reaction. How you respond to your child’s attempts in any task will define the word ’success’ for him and eventually determine the spirit with which he will lead the rest of his life. If you consider losing in a contest a failure and not a learning ground, then your child is surely going to measure his success in terms of losing and winning. And this is what mostly parents do. Instead of celebrating the attempt of the child, they focus entirely on the outcome. What could be an opportunity to encourage and make the child learn from his mistakes, becomes a session of criticism and disappointment.
Such an attitude of parents disturbs a child’s balance.
Enhance your child’s self worth. Encourage, appreciate and love your child. Give him opportunities to succeed and know his worth. Give him the space to think for himself independently and feel in control of his life.
Pressurizing children to perform, academically or in sports or in any talent, is a big no. Set realistic expectations from your child without making success or failure the deciding factor of your relationship with him. Create a loving atmosphere at home. Try to spend some relaxing moments with your child everyday by reading books or playing games or cracking jokes.
Most important is to give freedom to express to your child. Let him express his emotions, his fears. Talking his heart out to you will relieve your child. And with this kind of open communication, you’ll know how you can be of help to your child. Give your child, the time and guidance to handle changes in life. Assure him, it is alright to feel low sometimes but at the same time one has to move on. Acceptance and assurance of parents is the biggest encouragement to the child.
When you are in your true self, you are in the right position to have a sound relationship with anyone from human beings to animals. Then you don’t have to do anything to love anyone because then love emanates from you, love oozes out from you.
Speak to any father, he complains about his children; speak to any husband or any wife, they have complaints for each other; as long as they are being diplomatic, they will keep up a very sound face, a beaming smile and a false story to explain their happiness.
You have to be a complete person to become an embodiment of love. And then you will attract people. Then you don’t have to run for the people’s attention. Now you are doing everything to get attention – someone should notice your dress, your way of talking, everything.
Take your child's 'No' in your stride and show that you respect his viewpoint in a way that makes him feel that he is being empowered and not overpowered by parents.
Till about the age of 2, parents are in complete control of the child. They can put him to sleep at a time it suits them, make him wear what they want, take him out to places they like, and can distract him from his demands. But one fine day, they hear a two-letter word from their child’s mouth - ‘NO!’ And this two-letter word declares the beginning of a war between the parent and the child.
The parent feels how could a little child defy his authority, and the child feels how can he deny me my right to freedom. The parent and the child then try to assert their power with parents thrusting, forcing their choices on the child and the child becoming headstrong not to follow what parents tell him to do. The outcome is a more stubborn, rebellious child who is so easily labeled as ‘bad’.
