YOU MUST PUSH YOUR ENERGY UPWARDS. THIS IS POSSIBLE EITHER WITH WISDOM OR WITH YOGA.

Sex is a very small part of your bio-energy. It is given by nature to all beings. No one trains you to feel sexual. Yet you know it is there. What is required is to understand it and to face all the feelings that it arouses, rather than resorting to the centuries-old habit of repression and suppression.

It is a natural instinct which grows as the body grows. The hormonal and chemical changes bring forth the urge for sex. Our rishis have never ever condemned it - no wonder that most of them led a married life. Our ancestors never gave us this theory that celibacy is more pious and greater than indulgence. See our temples from Khajuraho to Ajanta Ellora. Statues of man and women in intimacy have been carved right on the walls of these temples. Inside the temples, there is not even a single idol of any god or goddess. The message is clear: body, mind and consciousness are all divine and interrelated to one another. What happens in the mind affects the body, what happens in the mind affects consciousness and vice versa.

Sex has been generally condemned and never discussed. If sex had been bad then God shouldn’t had made it for nature and nature shouldn’t had given it to us. Our very birth has happened because of it, so how can one condemn one’s very own existence.

Firstly, sex has to be understood as to what it is, only then can one transcend it. By hating it, hiding it; we will be stuck in it. A child doesn’t have it from day one, it comes at a certain age. So, as it comes, truly speaking, it should go by certain age. But it is difficult to find those people who naturally have gone beyond it. Mind remains obsessed with it even in old age. One finds it difficult even to talk about how to come out of it. So what left is that you hide the fact even from yourself and suppress it as strongly as you can. This means that there is a continuous struggle with your very own nature. If indulgence is wrong, so is repression.

Many times people have come to me with this problem but have been ashamed to talk about it. They live a sexual life and are guilty of still having sexual urges. For the benefit of all I bring this out so that you know the facts.

Let us try to understand the human body. Yoga says that your spine is the most important organ in your body. It is the base of your body and mind; and the whole body is rooted to it. You are young as long as your spine is young. You begin to get old when your spine begins to get old. Regular pranayama, meditation, a right state of mind, correct food as well as discipline can keep your spine young, and therefore, you can keep old age away. Everything depends on your spine; if your spine is alive and energetic you will have a brilliant mind. If the spine is dull and dead, you will have a sluggish, slow mind.

Our spine has two ends - at the beginning is the sex center and at the other end is sahasrar, the seventh center which is at the top of the head. The beginning of the spine is attached to the earth, i.e. your sex center. Sex is the most earthly thing in you. From the very beginning of this center you are in touch with nature, you are in touch with prakriti. From Sahasrar, you are in touch with the divine.

These are the two poles of your existence. If you are not divine or if you are not bringing divinity into your life - you will be a sex-oriented person. A person who carries sexuality in his mind, day in and out, is a worldly person. You can keep this façade of being a religious person but a truly religious person’s actions will not be sex-oriented. If sex is in your mind all the time then you are established in your lowest center. This center is not energized, nor awakened because the Muladhara chakra doesn’t need your energy to function.
Muladhara chakra takes energy from nature. Either your energy is flowing all the time from the sex center to the earth or your energy is getting released into the cosmos through Sahasrar. From Sahasrar you merge with Brahm, into the absolute existence. From the sex center you flow down into the relative existence. These are the two flows - one downward, the other upward. Unless your energy starts flowing upwards your miseries will never end, your sexual cravings will never end, your fantasies will never end and your greed will never end.
You must push your energy upwards. This is possible either with wisdom or with Yoga. I’m not saying that in Yoga you don’t need wisdom but I would like to put it in another way. There are two kinds of Yoga: Gyan Yoga and Ashtang Yoga. Through Gyan Yoga you move your energies upwards and the contemplative mind will begin to have glimpses of divinity. The more you are in these states of stillness, the more will be your wish to move higher in this path.

In Ashtang Yoga there is discipline, beginning with the body and moving to the mind with the help of Pratyahar and Dhyan. You systematically energize your Muladhara chakra and with the power of your mind, you move this energy from the lower centers to the upper ones. You may have glimpses of happiness - but they are illusionary ones. It will be like that, in a fraction of minutes there will be this great joy. But it won’t last long. This one glimpse will be enough to push you ahead on this path with a greater zeal because this glimpse has shown you your destination. When the energy starts moving upwards you start to experience more of such glimpses and once this energy reaches the Sahasrar, it is released from there. And then you will have the absolute bliss, Paramananda. Then you become joy yourself.