Soul Curry presents rendezvous with Rhea Pillai, who is an Indian model, an Art of Living foundation instructor and brand ambassador for several products. Correspondent from Soul Curry had a heart to heart talk with Rhea Pillai about her perspective on spirituality, marriage and more…
- What’s your personal perspective on Spirituality?
- Rhea: I think we are all inherently spiritual. It’s just the level of awareness & maturity of mind as to when you recognize that and you are in tuned with it.
- What is your view on the institution of marriage?
“MY STRUGGLE WITH THE WORD MARRIAGE IS THAT IN TODAY’S WORLD WE GIVE MORE IMPORTANCE TO RULES AND REGULATIONS ASSOCIATED WITH IT AND NEGLECT THE ESSENCE”
- Rhea:My struggle with the word marriage is that in today’s world we give more importance to rules and regulations associated with it and neglect the essence. For example, the question arises if we have put down our marriage on the paper? Is there a security for me being with my partner? Hence, it becomes more of a board room than a marriage and that disturbs me. Because it goes against the essence on why we are together or it probably elaborates a point too strongly which does not needs to be emphasized. And I think the reasons that bring two people together are overlooked, or not given importance, time and value. I believe more importance should be given to the fact that how committed you are.
- Having said that do you feel now getting married is necessary in the 21st century?
- Rhea:I honestly believe that it’s necessary for the sake of children because we do come from a society that has social rules and regulations and norms, which have influenced us from time immemorial. And these affect the child’s mind. I am not against the process; I just hope that we should respect the reasons why the process came into being. So if you keep that in mind, why not, marriage is a wonderful institution, but the way it is perceived today is something I don’t like.
“THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS HEALTH, HAPPINESS AND GROWTH IN LIFE”
- Do you think marriage is a bondage?
- Rhea: Not bondage, it can actually be very liberating. It all depends on being true to the reasons of coming together. Bondage is when you confine yourself, and you are knotting yourself up in the process of this is how this has to be done, this is what I expect you to do, when the expectations become unrealistic. That’s when it becomes a bondage. When you are not letting yourself or your partner grow.
- What’s your message for the youth? And how should they go about deciding about this aspect whether or not to marry.
- Rhea: There is no general rule that applies to each and every individual. The only thing that is required is to be true to your self. It’s a wonderful institution. Only if you are in for the right reasons and you value the fact that there are two different individuals involved, who have two different thought processes, two different belief systems. And when you accept that, there is huge level of acceptance as two individuals work together. I love the beautiful statement by Khalil Gibran that says, “Two pillars support the same roof. And its independent pillars. But they work towards the same goal.”Now there are certain choices that partners make, which may not be acceptable to one of the partners but as long as it works towards the same goal and both get the freedom to express their identity or their individuality, they should respect the each other. So this allowing each other to grow towards the same goal, you have to have a like minded partner.
- So why does this divorce come into picture? Why does that happen?
- Rhea: It comes into the picture when you do not have the same goal as your partner’s to an extent that it is completely opposite of what you want. So if you come to a point where you see that you cannot evolve or grow this way, and it is becoming more of an endless route of unhealthiness, then there is no why should you not get divorced. So the most important thing is health, happiness and growth in life.
Treatment of Women
- What is your perspective on the malpractices of female foeticide and discriminatory treatment given to women in India?
- Rhea: There is no denial that discrimination exists but the good part is that it is changing in the right direction. When I was told that I have given birth to a daughter, I felt that it is the most brilliant thing to happen.
We should also applaud the fact that we have had women Prime Minister, we have many women at administrative positions. And we respect women enough to be able to give them power. At the same time, what we are going through, what we have always gone through is, not recognizing the power of women, the brilliance of women, and the value of women.