Isn’t it but natural to have attachment with the family members? Please explain, how to get rid of all attachments?

It’s very easy. Remove attachment with your own body. People say, how can we detach ourselves emotionally with the outside world. Isn’t it but natural to have emotional bonding with the people that we are living with? Won’t it be? There is your wife or husband and there are your children; won’t there be affection to them?

You are already trying to justify it all by saying that it is ‘but natural’. If you think it is ‘but natural’, which actually it isn’t, then why ask this question at all? Go on, enjoy the attachment. But you know that your attachments are making you suffer. Your attachments are putting you into great turmoil and that is the reason you want to comprehend the way to come out of it.

It’s like, you were asleep this morning and then one stroke of death destroys everything; your possessions, your relationships, your identity, everything is wiped off. Today you have a name. The moment you die, you are reduced to being just a dead body. And dead bodies do not have any names. Do they? The moment this body dies, you are stripped of even your own name. A number is given in the mortuary; number 207 or 440 or whatever. Then you are just a dead body. And all those who loved you, all those who were attached to you and to whom you were attached, will kick you out of the house. Isn’t that true? Do you think they will keep you? Imagine, you go to somebody’s house and their father, who died four years back, is still seated on the chair in the drawing room. What a view that would be! In those four years, everything else would have got rotten and only the skeleton would be left. And the old man still is holding the cigar in his mouth.

The moment the pranic energy leaves the body, no one wants to keep you in the house. You are kicked out of your own house. And the most disturbing fact is that the household chores and business would carry on regardless, as though nothing has happened. If somebody dies, even his shop is closed for only two days, and on the third day the shop will also open and the business would carry on as normal. One can take leave for two days, four days or maybe a week. After that, it is back to normal. And one can’t keep crying for too long.

Sometime back a lady came to meet me from Madhya Pradesh (one of the states in India). She had lost her husband sometime ago. She was complaining to me that even today a widow is considered to be inauspicious in India. Today my friends and relatives don’t call me in their weddings and other auspicious occasions because they think that widows are ill fated. She said, she gets very upset that not only has her husband gone, even her friends and relatives have also started ignoring her. They no longer include her in their joyous moments. She was really troubled and didn’t know what to do? I told her, if you are getting so troubled, why don’t you become auspicious again? Why don’t you marry again?

She said how was that possible as she had three grown up children of the ages of twenty-two, nineteen and fifteen respectively. She couldn’t imagine that I was telling her to get married again. I told her that if she had died and had her husband been alive, he would have definitely got married. Then why are you feeling shy? You also get married. But she said she couldn’t do that.

Women are really stupid or innocent or what? All their lives they consider those fools-husbands to be their God. And if that silly husband-God

dies, they waste their lives remembering him, chanting the mantra clad in a white saree. And all these men are very clever. They keep alternative arrangements. The moment one goes, another one comes in. In India, even today if a woman becomes a widow, 99% out of hundred do not get married again but if a man becomes a widower, then on the day the final rites of his first wife are being done, people start looking for a girl for him.

And here you say that these people belong to you? You call them loved ones, they are all your own? If they are your own then they should remain with you forever. As long as this pranic energy is present in your body, they all appear to be your own but actually they are not. They are really not yours. They just claim to be yours, and claims are very far from the reality.

I am scared all the time. I can’t live alone. I am always seeking company of people. Please help?

The root of all fear is the fear of death. Deep in mind there are impressions of past death experiences, and the moment you are alone they begin to surface. Many times birth happened and many times you have seen death, all the previous experiences of birth and death are embedded in your sub conscious. Mind is nothing more than a dark shadow. If you get scared of the shadows of the darkness, what do you do? Do you fight with the shadows? You just switch on the light. Let there be light! And the moment light happens you see there is no devil, no ghost, no one at all.Your mind is just like a shadow and this shadow is scaring you. That’s the reason you can’t live alone. You always want to be with someone. If no friend or relative is around, you go to a shopping mall and be in the company of strangers. Why can’t you live alone? Because the moment you are alone, the shadows, the images of your own conscious mind play such a horrific scene for you that you get scared. Thus, the biggest punishment if the law has to give, what do they do? They put you in solitary confinement. No one would be seen, no word, no smell, no sight, just an eight by eight room where you are stuck. People go mad in that.But what is mind? Mind is nothing! So when it is nothing, why are you scared of nothing? That is the problem. What is mind? Our mind is playing havoc with us, our mind has put us in so much trouble and then we say, mind is nothing. But, this is true! It is true that mind is nothing (But that is my truth, not yours). Unless and until you make it your truth, your pain will never go away. You will always be in trouble.Just develop your awareness, live consciously and enjoy this life to its fullest. This is what will help you at the time of the death, and it is this awareness only which will help you to live your life joyously, gloriously.You don’t see when you are asked to see; you don’t hear when you are asked to hear. Why? Your conscious mind is always doing the zig - zag game for you. And you are always trapped in this cobweb. And that is the reason, you are always in this condition of turmoil. It is basically your mind which is in turmoil, while you are eternally pristine pure. Your true nature is that of truth. You are the truth, but you have no connection with yourself.What you know is the mind. I am a woman, I am of this age, my husband’s name is this, my father’s name is this, my home is this, my college is that, my school was that, my education is this much, now I am doing this job and all this information, which your mind is talking of is about this body. And all these thoughts are being churned in the mind and where is the mind? An absolute non-entity and you are so troubled with this non-entity.Just as small children say, “Mummythere is a ghost outside. I won’t go out.” Mummy says, “Son, there is no ghost, you go.” She switches on the light and says, “See, the whole lane is empty?” He says, “Yes”. So, she says, “Right! Now go running till that end and then come back running. And you see thoroughly, there is no ghost there. All those who say there is a ghost are liars. So you go and see for yourself.” The child runs and discovers that there is actually no ghost. While he is running back, he hears someone saying from behind, ‘ghossst!’ He starts screaming, “Mummy, there is a ghost and it was also saying -ghost!” Here, child is scared of some thing that does not even exist. Scared of something that does not exist. What an irony!And once you know how to live in this awareness, everything changes for you. Everything will bring joy to you. Being alone would now mean enjoyable things as you won’t be lonely now. Everybody is going to die one day. Why fear? Death can only reach up to your body not you. Learn the joy of being with self, with awareness and see all fears vanishing from mind.

Today you have a name. The moment you die, you are reduced to being just a dead body. And dead bodies do not have any names. Do they? The moment this body dies, you are stripped of even your own name. A number is given in the mortuary; number 207 or 440 or whatever. Then you are just a dead body. And all those who loved you, all those who were attached to you and to whom you were attached, will kick you out of the house. The moment the pranic energy leaves the body; no one wants to keep you in the house. You are kicked out of your own house. And the most disturbing fact is that the household chores and business would carry on regardless, as though nothing has happened.

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